How to Forget a Person

I dunno... why.. tonite.. I remember about all the nightmares... my bad experience... about her and her... i want to kick all of them from my life... I need tips.. helps form somebody.. I just want to forget about the whole experience. That experience makes me want to put up a wall in order to protect my heart. It's still hard to believe that someone could ever be so cruel... selfish.. It's been almost a year but it still feels like it happened yesterday... it is still so painful to deal with..

Mr Google.. plz help me... I think this article is really good and I want to share with all of you..

How to Forget a Person (Source:

Cut off contact. You can't forget someone if you still see him or her all the time, or constantly hear about his or her activities. Consider these strategies:

Take steps to make sure you won't run into this person during your day-to-day activities. If you tend to go grocery shopping at the same time, or take the same route home from work, tweak your schedule slightly so that a chance meeting becomes more unlikely.

For right now, avoid social gatherings where you know he or she will be present. Politely explain to the host that you hope the event goes well, and that you're staying away only because you want to avoid a painful encounter.

Remove him or her from your electronic life. Delete his or her contact information from your phone and email account, block his or her Facebook profile, and take any other measures to prevent unwanted contact. If necessary, change your email address.

Ask your mutual friends to stop updating you on this person's doings. Something terribly interesting might have happened, but you don't need to hear about it. If your friend forgets and accidentally mentions this person to you, gently remind him or her of your request, saying something like, "I'm sorry, B, but it's too upsetting for me to think about A. Maybe we could talk about something else."

Remove all reminders of this person. Purge your life of anything that brings up painful memories of this person. Not looking at these things every day will help you move on.

If you can't bear to get rid of certain items, bag them up and ask a family member or close friend if you can store them in their house, away from easy access. Request that the items be kept out of your reach for at least 6 months.
Go through your MP3 player and delete any songs that remind you of him or her. Replace them with encouraging, upbeat tracks that encourage you to be confident and forge ahead.

Stop thinking about him or her. Once you've cut off contact and removed visible reminders of this person, it should be easier to avoid thinking about your pain. If, however, a sudden thought does intrude, stop it in its tracks. Say "no" to yourself or out loud, and immediately shift your attention to whatever is in front of you. Resist the urge to wallow in self-pity, and resolve that thinking of him or her in any way is off-limits.

Get over any desire for revenge. Recognize that wanting to take revenge on someone (by making him or her jealous, upset, or sorry) still qualifies as thinking about them. You can't move on and forget if you're obsessed with vengeance, so learn how to let it go.

If you believe in a higher power, karma, or some form of cosmic justice, reason that he or she will get the appropriate payback eventually.

If you don't believe that someone else will dole out payback on your behalf, make peace with the fact that life's not fair. This person may have hurt you unjustly, but that doesn't give you the right to act out.

Remember the old George Herbert quote: "Living well is the best revenge." Going on with your life and refusing to sink to the other person's level communicates to him or her that you won't be affected by what happened, essentially rendering it insignificant.

If you're still having trouble, set aside time to express your feelings. If you've tried everything and still can't resist thinking about him or her, try a new approach. Set aside a limited amount of time (such as an hour or two) to sit down and write out all your feelings about what happened. Once time is up or you've run out of things to say (whichever happens first), close the document and put it away somewhere. Next time you're tempted to dwell on this person, tell yourself, "No, I've already expressed my feelings about that. I won't waste time by doing it again." 

Find a healthy distraction. Keep yourself on the right track by replacing the time you would have spent with this person (or would have spent thinking about him or her) with a new activity. Take up a hobby you've always wanted to try, join an intramural sports league, or start a new form of exercise. Whatever it is, it should be so interesting and engrossing that you can't manage to think of anything else while you're doing it.

  • Forgetting someone can help you move on, but try not to forget what you learned from the relationship. No time is wasted as long as you learned something.
  • Don't obsess about getting "closure." Cut off contact now, and resist the urge to resort to theatrics (such as sending a lengthy "goodbye email"). Just stop.
  • Don't try to get your stuff back. Unless it's a diamond ring or something that's one-of-a-kind, you're better off not contacting her to get it back. DVDs, clothes, your extra toothbrush ... just let 'em go. They're only possessions. Is it really worth the pain of being in her presence just to reclaim a pair of boxer shorts? Don't exchange your dignity for menial belongings.
  • Hang out with your friends. Let your buddies give you a reality check on how your ex wasn't all that to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea.
Honestly, your face, the way you walk, the way you eat, the way you laugh, everything... I am still keeping your pictures too... so, tonite.. i will remove all.. all of your photos.. I hope and I pray, someday.. i will go far from you.. not even a single day i will hear about you... i am still waiting for the day.. Ya Allah please help me.. give me a chance to forget about her... I don't know why this thing happened..I'm sure something good waiting for me.. I believe Allah's plan is the best of all plans.. Ya Allah, when I lose hope because my plans have come to nothing, then help me to remember that, Your love is always greater than my disappointments, and Your plans for my life are always better than my dreams..

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